Friday, May 20, 2011

Noises in My Life Journey

A friend shared with me yesterday about her feeling down with the current challenges she is facing in her career. Being in that state, she wondered whether she should put more focus in her personal life and just 'go through the motion' at work.

Going through the motion takes the joy out of your living and you may not be congruent with your true purpose.

The underlying self talk could be "Are all these efforts/ over coming challenges worth the while?".

I am wondering and it is a good thing to wonder.

I reflected on my life journey till now and they are colourful. There were moments of joy and there were moments of disappointment when I went through life challenges.

I believe that these challenges or occurrences in life makes me to be a better and clearer person.

The challenges are just noises in my life, distracting me away from my goals and true purpose. Some of these noises are required for me to build my inner strengths. For example in the areas where I need to be more focus and in setting my priorities.

I am sure there are more challenges ahead. "When there is a problem, there is an opportunity". My friend, Master Ken Chee, kept reminding me.

What I usually do is to read biography and find out what were the challenges great human beings in the past went through, their state of being and how they overcame the difficult situations. There are lessons and learnings everywhere. I relate their life journeys to the noises in my life now. I learn from them as much as possible and apply the lessons and principles accordingly.

I love reading the 'Sirah' or Prophetic Biographies of the Prophets. My favourites are Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. on how he patiently developed the people around him and expanded the Islamic Empire and Prophet Noah a.s. on how he persevered for 950 years in preaching Islam. I read the journey of the Khulafa ar Rasyidin too especially Syaidina Uthman Affan on his challenges over coming 'fitnah' (doing some thing to cause problems between two parties) in leading the Islamic Empire till his death.

I am sure you have your favourite biographies which helps keeping the noises under control and keep you strong in going through your life challenges, to be on track pursuing your life purpose.

Before you go into the mode of "resigned and cynical" with the noises, take a deep breath, go into solitude and ask yourself:

1. What are my goal(s) and true purpose?
2. How do I attract this challenge(s)?
3. How would this challenge help me to achieve my goal(s) and closer to my true purpose?
4. What resources do I need to go through this challenge?
5. What is the first step I can take to overcome this challenge?

I invite you to face the challenge, have faith, everything happen for a reason.



Friday, April 8, 2011

Silence Speaks

I am wondering and it is a good thing to wonder.

Would silence speaks?

I questioned many things in my life which I need the courage to speak about and search for some answers. The answers came in many form which I have to be aware of. In some silent moment, there are powerful communication happening.

I am sure it is normal to have internal dialogues in my head. There are times when I am alone, I hear louder or persistence voices in the head, more than normal. It is like I have to give some attention to the passing thought and ponder.

This is the time, I feel restless.
I would walk to the kitchen looking for something to eat;
Switch on the TV to look for a good programme to watch;
Browse the books, looking for a great book to read;
And many more 'doingness' stuff which I would looked for just to avoid paying attention to my inner thoughts.

Was I ever successful? No.

What I learned, by just being aware of a thought and I listen to it with no judgement and not making any conclusion about it, helps a lot. I would say "thank you for sharing" to the thought which I find not serving me or I am not ready to look into it yet.

I would love being in silence once in a while. I use the time to reflect, contemplate or do some deep thinking. I figure that by me doing this, I would clear some of my life issues.

I am aware that some of these questions even though they are valid questions, are just justifications/reasons for me not to take the next step and I am looking for safe answers.

Have you ever been in this situation?
What did you do?
Did you listen to your thought?
How did you manage your internal dialogues or conversations?
Did you avoid listening to it?
Were you looking for the right safe answer?

One thing I learned long time ago. I tend to look for the life long answers externally more than I look for them internally. And guess what, the journey inside provided me with more insights.

Have a great 2011.
How's your 2011 so far?
3 months up.
Are you making progress with your goals?


Saturday, December 19, 2009

End of 1430H & 2009 - Beginning of 1431H & 2010

I am wondering and it is a good thing to wonder.

Every year, we meet the end of the year and we wait anxiously for the beginning of the new year. We reflect what had happened in 2009 and 1430H. Looking forward for the 1431H and 2010.

I wonder what we are reflecting on and what are we anticipating for in the new year.

Are we reflecting on the same thing in 2009 as we want to work on in 2010? If it is the same thing, what is the progress so far? What is new? Why?

I am taking time off to reflect on what I have accomplished in 2009 and what I want to work on in 2010.

Something new which I am doing this time. I also want to reflect on how much I have improved in my journey to be closer to the Almighty. Obviously not much. This is an area which I will definitely add as my to do list in 2010 and determine to make progress in this area of my life.

Happy Goal Setting, Planning and Happy New Year.


Sunday, November 15, 2009

Learnings in Life - Personal Leadership

At every stage in my life, I am confronted with a lot of learnings. Some minor and some major.

The thing is this... whether I realise it or not and whether I like it or not, the learning is coming my way. Some come like "a small tap on the shoulder" and some come like "a huge truck hitting me".

This time my learning is huge. I am confronted and I am slow in recognising it. I have to adapt and change fast or it will eat me alive. :) Like a master trainer once told me "change or loose".

My major learning now are to be assertive and firm. I always follow my heart and I get it done the way I think will achieve results. I will continue following my heart but I need to change the way I do things.

I can achieve results by using diplomacy and also by being dominant. Typically I would choose the earlier method. I find it tiring to be a dominant guy.

What I recognised now by me being in this critical leadership position, I need to shift my way of being. I want to be assertive and firm. There too many people in my close circles saw glaringly that I will be a great leader by me adjusting this one area of my life NOW.

I have to move out from being seen and labelled a nice guy, likable, work from the background and a laid back person. I am too comfortable with my current way of being. I am adjusting from being too dominant at times and too nice at other times. This is a good learning and an acceptable process.

I focus on deliverable and results only in the past. It is a good thing. There are three areas which are important in delivering result - Strategy, Process and People. I like the strategy part. I am ok with the process part. When it comes to communication with people, I need to change my style of leadership.

I remembered in a training seminar which I attended. It state that the best kind of leadership is the leadership practices by Prophet Muhammad S.A.W.

This is a new beginning for me in this phase of my life. It is uncomfortable and I am taking it head on. This is my commitment now and for 2010.

My teachers in this area of my life at the moment are my goodfriends Reza Ali and Ken Chee. They show the kind of assertiveness which I want to emulate.

My questions to you are:

What are your challenges now in being the best you?

What stopping you to be at the next level of your personal power?

Are you happy where you are at?

What kind of self permission do you need to ensure personal change?

2010 is coming - what personal change are you committed to, to take you to the next level of personal power? Choose.



Thursday, November 12, 2009

Assisting someone... when will I quit

I received a text message from a friend that her uncle passed away. She felt blessed that her uncle was able to performed Hajj last year and thank me for assisting.

When I got the message... I was silent for a moment and tears came out of my eyes. I reflected on what happenned.

I remembered everyone assisted to get him to be candidated to go for Hajj 3 years ago but failed. We tried again 2 years ago and still he was not candidated. With our doa and Allah blessing, he was candidated last year and alhamdulillah, he performed his Hajj last year.

I am wondering and it is a good thing to wonder...

What if I stop assisting him in the first year or the second year, would he be able to go? I don't know.

I got these questions in my mind:

When do I stop assisting someone after I begin? I am grateful that I persisted to assist the gentleman with Allah blessing.

What about when I am with other people especially when I am coaching?

Is my judgement correct when I decide to stop assisting someone?

What rational do I give for not assisting someone?

Do I assist out of convinience and when it is comfortable?

I reflected on the life I had been living and the life I am living into...

how many souls I have assisted out of convinience when the person need my assistance?

how many times I gave all I have got to assist someone?

I am blessed that I got a realisation after reading the text message sent by the friend. Thank you AD.

I acknowledge that I am here in this world to add value to others in any way I can.

I will continue living my mission statement - "I touch, move and inspire people using my honesty and contribution to achieve human transformation and to be closer to the Almighty"


Monday, October 26, 2009

Prosperity Consciousness - the art of creating wealth

I am wondering and it is a good thing to wonder.

Many times I pray to the Almighty to bless me with financial prosperity in this world and keep working hard for wealth.

In the process, I ponder:

1. my mindset relating to money.

a) what is my personal belief about money;
b) what is my limiting belief about money;
c) how is my relationship with money; and
d) how is money being used now.

I found this great book about how to increase wealth and it makes reference to Al Quran.

I want to share with you the relevant ayat from the Quran about wealth creation.

2. To understand WEALTH in general, the relevant surah are:

Surah al–Dhariyat 56 – 58
Surah TaHa 130 – 132
Surah al-Taubah 28
Surah Al-Imran 27
Surah Al-Shura 19
Surah Fatir 3
Surah Hud 6

The purpose of every creation is to worship Allah. One primary distraction of worshiping is seeking sustenance. Therefore Allah assures rizq. When we faithful and worship Allah, He will provide sustenance and wealth with ease and blessings.

a) the blessing of wealth

Surah Al-Baqarah 60
Surah al-Anfal 26
Surah Al-Baqarah 22
Surah Al-Baqarah 172
Surah Al-Isra’ 70
Surah Al-Nisa’ 5

It is not a sin to wish for more money as long as the intention is pure.

Prophet sabda “ there is no harm in richness, for he who has taqwa, but good health is better than being rich, for he who has taqwa.” Ibn Majah #2141

The purpose of money

Surah al-layl 17-18

Sirah Rasulullah - Money will never decrease because of charity

b) The trial of wealth

Surah al-taghabun 15
Surah al-anfal 28
Surah Al-Imran 14
Surah Al-Taubah 24
Surah Al-Humazah 1-3
Surah Al-Maryam 77
Surah Al-Mudhathir 11-15
Surah A-Masad 2
Surah al-taubah 55
Surah Al-Imran 178
Surah Al-fajr 15 -20

c) Halal & Haram Sustenance and the consequences

Surah Al-Rum 39
Surah Al-Nisa 160-161
Surah Al-Nisa 10

d) The true richness

Surah al-Kahf 46
Surah Saba 37
Surah Hadid 20

e) The wisdom of disparity

Surah al-Isra’ 30
Surah Al-Zukhruf 32
Surah Al-Nahl 71
Surah Al-Shura 27

3. The Ways to increase Wealth

a) The Taqwa of Allah

Surah al-talaq 2-3
Surah Al-A’raf 96
Surah Al-Maidah 66
Surah Albaqarah 268

b) Seeking Forgiveness and repentance

Surah Nuh 10-12
Surah Hud 52
Surah Hud 3

c) Putting one’s trust in Allah or strengthening one’s faith…

Surah Al-Furqan 58
Surah Al-Talaq 3
Surah Al-Taubah 28
Surah Al-taubah 59

d) Constantly worshiping Allah

e) Thanking Allah

Surah Ibrahim 7
Surah Al-Naml 19
Surah Al- Ahqaf 15

f) Frequently performing Hajj and Umrah

g) Establishing the ties of Kinship

h) Spending in the way of Allah

i) Emigrating for the sake of Allah

j) Marriage

Surah Al- Nur 32

k) Supporting students of Islamic Knowledge

l) Showing kindness to the Poor

m) Being honest in one’s dealings

n) Making hereafter One’s main concern

o) Striving to achieve the goal

Surah Al-Mulk 15
Surah Al-Muzzammil 20
Surah Al-Nahl 5-7
Surah Al-Isra ‘ 12
Surah Al- Qasas 73
Surah A- Rum 23
Surah Al-Nahl 14
Surah Al-Jathiyah 12
Surah Al-Quraish 1-4
Surh Al Baqarah 198
Surah Al-Ghafir 60
Surah Al-Nisa 32
Surah Al-Baqarah 126
Surah Ibrahim 37
Surah Al-Jumu’ah 10

Then I asked myself after reading the book:

Am I serious in wanting to create wealth?

When will I read the tafsir of the above ayat?

Would I seek guidance in interpreting the ayat?

Would would I do with what I know?

How different will I be before and after knowing what I know now?

What am I willing to give up?

What would I do on a consistent basis?

Do I really want to be wealthty?

Do I deserve to be wealthy?

What am I willing to do now?

With every gifts form Allah, comes along great responsibilities.

What are your thoughts?

Where are you now?